There's a place that I know/It's not
pretty there and few have ever gone/If I show it to you now/Will it make you
run away?
Or will you stay/Even if it hurts/Even if I try to push you out/Will you return?/And remind me who I really am/Please remind me who I really am
Everybody's got a dark side/Do you love me?/Can you love mine?/Nobody's a picture perfect But we're worth it/You know that we're worth it/Will you love me?/Even with my dark side?
Like a diamond/From black dust/It's hard to know/What can become/If you give up/So don't give up on me/Please remind me who I really am
Don't run away/Don't run away/Just tell me that you will stay/Promise me you will stay/Don't run away/Don't run away/Just promise me you will stay/Promise me you will stay
Will you love me?
Everybody's got a dark side/Do you love me?/Can you love mine?/Nobody's a picture perfect
But we're worth it/You know that we're worth it/Will you love me?/Even with my dark side?
Don't run away/Don't run away/Don't run away/Promise you'll stay
Or will you stay/Even if it hurts/Even if I try to push you out/Will you return?/And remind me who I really am/Please remind me who I really am
Everybody's got a dark side/Do you love me?/Can you love mine?/Nobody's a picture perfect But we're worth it/You know that we're worth it/Will you love me?/Even with my dark side?
Like a diamond/From black dust/It's hard to know/What can become/If you give up/So don't give up on me/Please remind me who I really am
Don't run away/Don't run away/Just tell me that you will stay/Promise me you will stay/Don't run away/Don't run away/Just promise me you will stay/Promise me you will stay
Will you love me?
Everybody's got a dark side/Do you love me?/Can you love mine?/Nobody's a picture perfect
But we're worth it/You know that we're worth it/Will you love me?/Even with my dark side?
Don't run away/Don't run away/Don't run away/Promise you'll stay
-"Dark Side" by Kelly Clarkson
I don’t like choosing songs that are
too obvious, which is why I didn’t post the song that describes how I’m really
feeling. But I heard this song at H&M not too long ago and decided to write
down as much of the lyrics as I could and find it later. The words that caught
my attention are “don’t run away, don’t run away, just tell me that you will
stay” and bits and pieces of the chorus. And just to answer any lingering
questions you may have, yes I still think about him and no, I’m not over him.
Just thought I’d get it out now. Just in case…
I had a great conversation with a
friend yesterday, who is in a similar situation as mine, except he is on the
other side. It was a very interesting conversation that opened my eyes to see
things differently. I already knew some of the reasons why things ended with my
relationship, but I didn’t fully capture them until yesterday. For so long I’ve
held onto the idea that one day we’d get back together and everything will be
sunshine and rainbows like before. But I came to realize that not everything
was as how I remembered. I was so blinded by the good things, that I failed to
see the moments that brought me down and really hurt me while I was in the
relationship. Like the song says, everyone has a dark side—a side that makes
the other person really question whether he/she wants to spend his/her life
with you. I know my “other” side can be pretty ugly, one that even leaves me
grossed out and disgusted. I look back and I see an insecure person that let
little things get to me. I showed no confidence in who I was, allowing the
“green-eyed monster” to really bring me down and attack the person I cared
about most. I don’t blame him for making that one of the top reasons why he
made his choice, as I might have done the same thing. BUT (and I place a huge
emphasis on that one), that to me was not enough.
The same way I have a dark side, so
does he. I’m not about to go into details because it’s not my business to be
sharing others’ “sides” other than my own. However, I did a lot to keep things
rolling and to make sure things were good at the end of the day. I made a lot
of sacrifices and put up with a lot. I chose not to run away when things got
rough, and I chose not to hide when things came flying towards me to bring us
down. My friend made me realize last night that it shouldn’t have to be that
way. I shouldn’t have to fight for anyone’s attention or to hope that I’m the
only one he has eyes for. When it’s right and meant to be, things will fall
into place. I have a lot I need to work on, and so does he. I’m not saying that
we’re meant to be together, but if things were to ever go back to the way they
were, we’d both have to change. I refuse to be the girl I used to be. I refuse
to let the little things bring me down. I won’t fall for words as easily as I
once did. Actions most definitely speak louder than words, and this year has
definitely shown me that.
Above all, I’ve learned about patience.
God has a purpose for everything. Not everything is caused by God, but He does
permit things to happen. Every day I question why God allows certain things to
happen to me, or why He allows me to feel or not feel certain things. In the
end, the answer is always to wait—wait for what you ask for or wait for
something better. I pray for the latter. I want something better than what I
had. I want it all—magic, love, happiness, blessings, kindness, tenderness,
sacrifice, forgiveness…everything! I don’t know when things will fall into
place, but when they do, they’ll be just right. No more running away. No more
hiding. There will be love in the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, the
painful, the worst, and best. There will be love.